Tune Tuesday #51 – By the Way, I Forgive You

“By the Way, I Forgive You” this line, from the song Every Time I Hear That Song by Brandi Carlile, echoed in my mind immediately after I first heard the song. There is something about her voice, coupled with the melody and the lyrics that sounds so familiar. In fact, when I first heard the song, I…

Mindful Meditation #163 – Love them Just As They Are

I went to the Museum of Broken Relationships on a whim. The museum as described by the museum itself “is a global crowd-sourced project.” It has permanent museums in Los Angeles and Zagreb, Croatia. This museum has traveling exhibits that have been all over the world. People send in artifacts/ relics from their broken relationship…

I Dreamt About an Ex…

I woke up profoundly changed, about a month ago. This change occurred while I was asleep having, what at first felt like a nightmare, but in actuality it was a dream. Over seven years ago I ended a relationship that went on longer than it should have. I was young, naive and I did not know…

You Have a Choice to Get Off the Train

“It seems like you were on the train.” I told the woman with tired, worn eyes. “On the train?” She asked in a confused tone. In the moments leading up to what she revealed to me, I found myself linking her experience to a similar experience I had over eight years ago. A romantic relationship, which…

Tune Tuesday #30 – Heart of Gold

My heart is hurting. I do not want to write about today’s topic. Deep sigh. This is where my heart is … hurting. I have to follow it, honor it and let it speak. I ran into an ex this weekend. I met him a year ago. I remember when we first met. As I…

The Love Within

“What are your goals for the year?” My friend asked. Silence. I was speechless and said nothing. For as long as I can remember, I have always known what my goals are for the coming year; but this December 2015 was different. I had just healed from being very, very sick for a month and…

Breakeven pt. III

The first breakup that I wrote about in Breakeven pt II was very difficult for me. A sliver of it stayed with me up to My Month of Writing. I believed I experienced my one shot at love and I felt it was wasted on someone who didn’t appreciate me or know how to fully…

Breakeven pt. II

Two weeks ago I scratched the surface on break ups with Breakeven pt. I. Once a relationship ends it feels like there is a real or imagined imbalance between the parties involved e.g. one person grieves more or dates right away and sometime one person finds their future spouse. We all grieve in different ways, When…

Breakeven pt. I

When I first heard Breakeven by the script, I thought it was brilliant. To my knowledge it was the first song that addressed the unbalance of a breakup. “I’m still alive but I’m barely breathing […]  [S]he’s moved on while I’m still grieving. [W]hen a heart breaks no it don’t break even.” -“Breakeven” by the…

Lessons from a Soulmate – My Month of Writing — Reflection

I am not a hopeless romantic. I was never in a relationship for the sake of being in one. I have never stayed in a relationship because I was afraid of being alone, and I never jumped from relationship to relationship with no down time in between. I have been single more that I have…

Breaking Up(ward)

This month, last year, I reconnected with a classmate who has since become a friend.  It has been two months from when we met to when we reconnected. The standard thing a lot of people do around this time is wish co-workers, friends and strangers happy new year.  Followed by the question that I asked…