The Road to Marriage: Where You ARE vs. Where you NEED to Be

Two weeks ago, with much hesitation, I kicked off a mini-series on Marriage. In February 2016, I realized I was ready for marriage. I was beyond excited for this realization and I could not wait to share it with my close friends. A few months later, somehow pandora’s box opened. Before I knew it, I found myself in…

Mindful Monday #146 – Honesty

I don’t feel like I am in spaces where I can speak freely both at work and in aspects of my personal life. I’ve been treading lightly a lot lately. I’ve been walking a tight rope between my heart, voice and authenticity and the people in my day to day who are outside my friendship…

Gratitude in an Uncertain Time

I’m trying my hardest to stay zen day in and day out. I’m not doing well with this intention. I notice my breath restricts when I hear the news or when I read articles in my news feeds. So much is at stake and I want to stay informed. Once upon a time I wanted…

The Moment You’ve Been Waiting For

I don’t know what Tuesday holds for us? If it is anything like how 2016 election night was and the despair felt among many populations, we need to brace ourselves. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. I never thought I’d say that in a blog that is meant to be positive and up…

Wisdom #75 – An Honest Thank You Letter

It’s…not Wednesday, but this wisdom is too good to wait until Wednesday to be shared. The deeper I get into my mindfulness practice the harder it is for me to be around inauthenticity. The further I go with speaking my truth, the hard it is for me to be quiet and untruthful. I never lied,…

‘No Longer the Quiet, Shy Girl Who was in Pain’

I never planned to be here. I never thought I would write this blog, write this consistently and live the life I am living. Today is my three-year anniversary of starting The Illuminated Voice. This blog started out as a goal for myself to practice being vulnerable. I was challenged to perform a solo show, by my voice coach, about…

When Did Consistency Become Novelty?

“Stephanie…” my friend, the novelist, got my attention as we sat at a large group dinner. He paused and searched for what he wanted to say. “You’re …” I waited for him to speak. “Consistent,” he said, though he was not sure that it was the right word he wanted to say. Consistent? I thought. “Yeah,…

Tune #40 – Be What Tomorrow Needs

Tomorrow is TUESDAY and not like any other Tuesday. It’s election day. My stomach is in knots. After a group meditation last week, my heart dropped as I heard two women say that they would not vote because they didn’t want to make a choice between the two main presidential candidates. I’ve been meditating a lot on…

Mindful Monday #137 – The Source of Our Greatest Strength

  This past Friday I wrote a post titled “She told me to stay single.” The post is a real life account of a woman I met this year that kindly told me to stay single. She wanted me to counter the narrative of how she was raised as a Latin woman (and how all women…

She Told Me to Stay Single

In a room filled with the chatter of over 200 people, I only heard her words. The crowd was muted by a truth, her truth, that she spoke to me. This year has been filled with the most vivid memories. It’s almost like my brain took panoramic snap shots of important moments of the year. Are…

Mindful Monday #125 – Pause

Pauses are wonderful. Pause for a moment. Now pause for 5 minutes. How do you feel? The weekend is a pause from the week. A vacation is a pause from our daily lives. Even when we are breathing, once we have in hailed a full breath there is a slight pause before we exhale. Our breath is so seamless that we…

I’m Thankful For: Self Acceptance

The weekend felt ordinary. Late Monday night I realized more happened below the surface than I could see. I was home more then I was out. The 3 intentional activities that I did, were filled with open, positive people who are more strangers than acquaintances or friends. As we talked, each person shed light on…