Shared Secrets

It may be embarrassing, shameful, light hearted, heart breaking or life changing, but to some degree or another everyone has a secret. Some secrets may go against our identity, make us appear weak or seem unfavorable or we may have a secret that surrounds a dream that we never expressed or followed or a feeling…

Tune Tuesday #49 – This is Me

It’s Tuesday! I love todays song so much. I shared it everywhere, which made me think that I shared it here, when I had not. I am glad I waited, because sharing it now is more relevant. In our current cultural climate there are so many people that want to be seen and heard. Being…

I’m Thankful for: Courage

Somewhere within in me is a fear to speak at this time. A lot of wounds have been open this year at a very large public scale in both our country and the world. Many of us may be treading lightly to avoid inviting conflict and/or inflicting pain on ourselves and others. You may feel…

Soulful Cries

I’ve been very emotional these past two weeks. This past week alone I’ve cried almost every day. If I cried in public, it might alarm people because of the depth of my tears. Amaya Angelou in her poem “Still I Rise” would call my tears “soulful cries”. As you read this, you may think that…

Mindful Monday #157 – Put UNITY Back in Community

One day and one month ago I attended a weekend training to learn how to facilitate the Practice of Council. Council is a community circle where strangers share their stories and truths. Every one is given equal space and equal time to speak and be heard. It is the intentions of those who listen to listen…

Mindful Monday #146 – Honesty

I don’t feel like I am in spaces where I can speak freely both at work and in aspects of my personal life. I’ve been treading lightly a lot lately. I’ve been walking a tight rope between my heart, voice and authenticity and the people in my day to day who are outside my friendship…

A Place I Never Imagined

Home get’s better and better with each visit. I visited my childhood home for the holidays as I do each year. When I first moved to Los Angeles, each time I visited home, I wanted to spend more time with friends over my family. I was young and still very connected to my home town community. Overtime…

The Year of Adventure

Happy New Year! It’s 2017!!! I hope your 2016 ended well with peaceful resolve on the hard moments and experiences of your year.  I hope you had profound realizations on ways that you have grown, or need to grow and the ways you are or need to be nurtured and loved. My 2016 was great…

‘No Longer the Quiet, Shy Girl Who was in Pain’

I never planned to be here. I never thought I would write this blog, write this consistently and live the life I am living. Today is my three-year anniversary of starting The Illuminated Voice. This blog started out as a goal for myself to practice being vulnerable. I was challenged to perform a solo show, by my voice coach, about…

When Did Consistency Become Novelty?

“Stephanie…” my friend, the novelist, got my attention as we sat at a large group dinner. He paused and searched for what he wanted to say. “You’re …” I waited for him to speak. “Consistent,” he said, though he was not sure that it was the right word he wanted to say. Consistent? I thought. “Yeah,…

Mindful Monday #137 – The Source of Our Greatest Strength

  This past Friday I wrote a post titled “She told me to stay single.” The post is a real life account of a woman I met this year that kindly told me to stay single. She wanted me to counter the narrative of how she was raised as a Latin woman (and how all women…