Wisdom Wednesday #87 – The Person You Should Really Marry

“I married everyone in sight except the one person I needed to marry to have a great relationship.” – Tracy McMillan It’s Wednesday and Valentine’s and boy do I have a wisdom for you! This is one of the best wisdoms that emerged when I meditated on marriage last year. That meditation brought so much…

Lessons from Love

Happy Sunday! We are now four days into February. For a long time I would dread this month and I hated Valentine’s Day because it reminded me of my aloneness. Back then, I only felt truly lonely on Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas. I don’t know when I transmuted that loneliness? Perhaps it was when…

Mindful Monday #154 – The Less Attached You Are

Happy Monday! It’s great to be back with a Monday post. The past two weeks of work have been hectic, which spilled into my weekend with much needed rest. What emerged during that time were freeing realizations. I reached a new level of letting go, that I never thought was possible, because I didn’t know this division could exist….

He Drew Her like a Spiral

In September of 2016, I decided to remain optimistic about marriage. I realized I was ready for marriage, in February of that year. Shortly after that realization friends and strangers, on their own, told me their negative experiences with marriage. Each experience and story was a counter to the narrative that we all know and reinforce to each…

You Have a Choice to Get Off the Train

“It seems like you were on the train.” I told the woman with tired, worn eyes. “On the train?” She asked in a confused tone. In the moments leading up to what she revealed to me, I found myself linking her experience to a similar experience I had over eight years ago. A romantic relationship, which…

Wisdom #77 – Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships

“We may know what a healthy relationship may look like, but most people have no idea how to get one. And no one teaches us how to do so.” Joanne Davila states in today’s Wisdom Wednesday video titled “Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships”. We teach people how to have a good relationship often when it…

Tune #43 – Marry the Man Today

I am currently meditating on marriage. Last year I realized I was ready for marriage and what came next was a surprising universal counter argument to re-think that desire. Now, I am trying to make sense of the information I learned in classes and through books and personal stories people told me. Traditional values around marriage, dating…

Marriage: Overexposure

I’m currently in a month long meditation on Marriage. I was ecstatic to realize, in February 2016, I worked through common fear most people have around marriage. What perplexed me was having that realization as a single, non-coupled, non-dating woman. Three months later, I was t-boned by the truths that challenged societies image and ideas of marriage, which…

Tune Tuesday #42 – The Unmarried Female

Happy Tuesday! The US wedding market is a 55 billion dollar industry and a 300 billion dollars industry world wide. Companies make major profits from those who say I do and may even take delight when people walk down the aisle more than once. In college, I remember reading academic articles about the wedding industry…