Tune #43 – Marry the Man Today

I am currently meditating on marriage. Last year I realized I was ready for marriage and what came next was a surprising universal counter argument to re-think that desire. Now, I am trying to make sense of the information I learned in classes and through books and personal stories people told me. Traditional values around marriage, dating…

Wisdom Wednesday #76 – Keep the Spark Alive

  How we relate to our friends is, in someways, the groundwork for how we relate to our romantic partners.  How we treat ourselves speaks to how we allow others to treat us. I’m currently in a spiritual discussion/ meditation/ deeper analysis on marriage. Both love and relationship are part of the foundation an ideal marriage. There is…

The Road to Marriage: Where You ARE vs. Where you NEED to Be

Two weeks ago, with much hesitation, I kicked off a mini-series on Marriage. In February 2016, I realized I was ready for marriage. I was beyond excited for this realization and I could not wait to share it with my close friends. A few months later, somehow pandora’s box opened. Before I knew it, I found myself in…

Mindful Monday #146 – Honesty

I don’t feel like I am in spaces where I can speak freely both at work and in aspects of my personal life. I’ve been treading lightly a lot lately. I’ve been walking a tight rope between my heart, voice and authenticity and the people in my day to day who are outside my friendship…

Building the Case for Marriage

Last year was filled with many surprises. The themes that came up in my life were even more surprising, because some of them defined my year. Marriage. One of the most charged words in the English language. Everyone has an opinion and view on the topic. There are several images and ideas that are freely associated when…

When Did Consistency Become Novelty?

“Stephanie…” my friend, the novelist, got my attention as we sat at a large group dinner. He paused and searched for what he wanted to say. “You’re …” I waited for him to speak. “Consistent,” he said, though he was not sure that it was the right word he wanted to say. Consistent? I thought. “Yeah,…

The Beauty of Timing

I wrapped a movie last week, I started a new movie this week, I’ve been working with a non-profit for the past few Saturdays and I am taking classes in my limited down time. Tonight, with tired eyes and a hungry stomach, I decided to grab a bite before I headed off to bed. I…

Mindful Monday #137 – The Source of Our Greatest Strength

  This past Friday I wrote a post titled “She told me to stay single.” The post is a real life account of a woman I met this year that kindly told me to stay single. She wanted me to counter the narrative of how she was raised as a Latin woman (and how all women…

Tune Tuesday #35 – Do your friendships raise you up?

“I’ve never told anyone this before.” “My friends and I never talk about these things.” I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships lately. I am someone people call on to seek council, support or guidance. Since I can remember I have always looked for like minded people and always choose to be surrounded by people I felt comfortable…

Wisdom Wednesday # 67 – A Father’s Wish

Father’s Day was this weekend. When mothers day or fathers day or holidays in relation to family come up, I feel the need to tread lightly. Not everyone has grown up in a loving home or to loving parents or guardians.  I do not want to exclude anyone and I sometimes do not write during these events. Visions of absent…

I’m Thankful For: Chance Encounters

Last week my friend was in town. I’ll call her the traveler. It was late July in 2014 when I met her. She was in town visiting a friend and I had just gotten back from my month of writing. I debated going out that night, to visit my friend at his restaurant, but I decided to…