You Have a Choice to Get Off the Train

“It seems like you were on the train.” I told the woman with tired, worn eyes. “On the train?” She asked in a confused tone. In the moments leading up to what she revealed to me, I found myself linking her experience to a similar experience I had over eight years ago. A romantic relationship, which…

Wisdom #77 – Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships

“We may know what a healthy relationship may look like, but most people have no idea how to get one. And no one teaches us how to do so.” Joanne Davila states in today’s Wisdom Wednesday video titled “Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships”. We teach people how to have a good relationship often when it…

Marriage: Overexposure

I’m currently in a month long meditation on Marriage. I was ecstatic to realize, in February 2016, I worked through a common fear most people have around marriage. What perplexed me was having that realization as a single, non-coupled, non-dating woman. Three months later, I was t-boned by the truths that challenged societies image and ideas of marriage,…

Wisdom Wednesday #76 – Keep the Spark Alive

  How we relate to our friends is, in someways, the groundwork for how we relate to our romantic partners.  How we treat ourselves speaks to how we allow others to treat us. I’m currently in a spiritual discussion/ meditation/ deeper analysis on marriage. Both love and relationship are part of the foundation an ideal marriage. There is…

The Road to Marriage: Where You ARE vs. Where you NEED to Be

Two weeks ago, with much hesitation, I kicked off a mini-series on Marriage. In February 2016, I realized I was ready for marriage. I was beyond excited for this realization and I could not wait to share it with my close friends. A few months later, somehow pandora’s box opened. Before I knew it, I found myself in…

Mindful Monday #147 – The Love You Long For

Happy Monday! It’s Valentine’s Day eve. Socially Valentines Day has focused more on romantic love versus’ other forms of love that are sometimes present in our daily lives. Romantic love is fantastic, but it is not the end all be all. Some people across the world, who in relationships, do not always or have ever felt…

Building the Case for Marriage: My Framework

I don’t want to talk about marriage. It’s the last thing I want to talk about. As a little girl, I was an observer. I spent much of my time in silence and observed more then I spoke. I often saw more than most of my peers. As we grow older, we tend to observe far less, but…

Mindful Monday #146 – Honesty

I don’t feel like I am in spaces where I can speak freely both at work and in aspects of my personal life. I’ve been treading lightly a lot lately. I’ve been walking a tight rope between my heart, voice and authenticity and the people in my day to day who are outside my friendship…

Mindful Monday #145 – Love Makes You A Better Person

Happy Monday! There are only a few days left before we step into the month of February. Time flies. For the past two years, I have meditated on Love. In 2015, I focused on the different types of love that exists: platonic love, romantic love, family love and self love. What resulted in that meditation was…

Mindful Monday #142 – Trust Yourself

I’m back in Los Angeles! I kicked off my new year this past weekend with one of my intentions for the year: Honor Your Body. I took a four hour yoga class, which was everything I needed to start off the year and my intention. We did yoga, meditation, an out door walking meditation, journaled and did…

When Did Consistency Become Novelty?

“Stephanie…” my friend, the novelist, got my attention as we sat at a large group dinner. He paused and searched for what he wanted to say. “You’re …” I waited for him to speak. “Consistent,” he said, though he was not sure that it was the right word he wanted to say. Consistent? I thought. “Yeah,…

The Beauty of Timing

I wrapped a movie last week, I started a new movie this week, I’ve been working with a non-profit for the past few Saturdays and I am taking classes in my limited down time. Tonight, with tired eyes and a hungry stomach, I decided to grab a bite before I headed off to bed. I…

Mindful Monday #137 – The Source of Our Greatest Strength

  This past Friday I wrote a post titled “She told me to stay single.” The post is a real life account of a woman I met this year that kindly told me to stay single. She wanted me to counter the narrative of how she was raised as a Latin woman (and how all women…