Wisdom #77 – Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships

“We may know what a healthy relationship may look like, but most people have no idea how to get one. And no one teaches us how to do so.” Joanne Davila states in today’s Wisdom Wednesday video titled “Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships”. We teach people how to have a good relationship often when it…

Tune #43 – Marry the Man Today

I am currently meditating on marriage. Last year I realized I was ready for marriage and what came next was a surprising universal counter argument to re-think that desire. Now, I am trying to make sense of the information I learned in classes and through books and personal stories people told me. Traditional values around marriage, dating…

Marriage: Overexposure

I’m currently in a month long meditation on Marriage. I was ecstatic to realize, in February 2016, I worked through a common fear most people have around marriage. What perplexed me was having that realization as a single, non-coupled, non-dating woman. Three months later, I was t-boned by the truths that challenged societies image and ideas of marriage,…

Tune Tuesday #42 – The Unmarried Female

Happy Tuesday! The US wedding market is a 55 billion dollar industry and a 300 billion dollars industry world wide. Companies make major profits from those who say I do and may even take delight when people walk down the aisle more than once. In college, I remember reading academic articles about the wedding industry…

Mindful Monday #147 – The Love You Long For

Happy Monday! It’s Valentine’s Day eve. Socially Valentines Day has focused more on romantic love versus’ other forms of love that are sometimes present in our daily lives. Romantic love is fantastic, but it is not the end all be all. Some people across the world, who in relationships, do not always or have ever felt…

Building the Case for Marriage: My Framework

I don’t want to talk about marriage. It’s the last thing I want to talk about. As a little girl, I was an observer. I spent much of my time in silence and observed more then I spoke. I often saw more than most of my peers. As we grow older, we tend to observe far less, but…

Building the Case for Marriage

Last year was filled with many surprises. The themes that came up in my life were even more surprising, because some of them defined my year. Marriage. One of the most charged words in the English language. Everyone has an opinion and view on the topic. There are several images and ideas that are freely associated when…

Mindful Monday #137 – The Source of Our Greatest Strength

  This past Friday I wrote a post titled “She told me to stay single.” The post is a real life account of a woman I met this year that kindly told me to stay single. She wanted me to counter the narrative of how she was raised as a Latin woman (and how all women…

She Told Me to Stay Single

In a room filled with the chatter of over 200 people, I only heard her words. The crowd was muted by a truth, her truth, that she spoke to me. This year has been filled with the most vivid memories. It’s almost like my brain took panoramic snap shots of important moments of the year. Are…

I’m Thankful For: Freedom

This year, I had a few realizations that I have not written about yet. I have only verbally shared some of those realizations with a handful of friends. Some realizations require backstory in order to grasp the depth of the realization, others I am in the midst of understanding deeper and some I am not…

I’m Thankful for: Singlehood

Today’s Thankful Thursday has been on my mind for a month. Singlehood, depending on your age and gender, has different societal constructs and personal meanings that change at different stages of life. Often articles list reasons why we should enjoy being single to help someone get through a breakup. Other articles discuss the importance of…

The Love Within

“What are your goals for the year?” My friend asked. Silence. I was speechless and said nothing. For as long as I can remember, I have always known what my goals are for the coming year; but this December 2015 was different. I had just healed from being very, very sick for a month and…