Mindful Monday #170 – Be Your Own Role Model

It’s Monday! By the time you read this I will be wrapping up a 4 day silent meditation at Joshua Tree. Yes, that is right I am currently at a 4 day silent meditation! I can’t believe it either! Something shifted in the fall of 2016. Around that time, I realized I would be okay…

He Drew Her like a Spiral

In September of 2016, I decided to remain optimistic about marriage. I realized I was ready for marriage, in February of that year. Shortly after that realization friends and strangers, on their own, told me their negative experiences with marriage. Each experience and story was a counter to the narrative that we all know and reinforce to each…

You Have a Choice to Get Off the Train

“It seems like you were on the train.” I told the woman with tired, worn eyes. “On the train?” She asked in a confused tone. In the moments leading up to what she revealed to me, I found myself linking her experience to a similar experience I had over eight years ago. A romantic relationship, which…

Seven Generations of Women

By chance and by choice, I found myself among large communities of women, in 2016. As I followed my curiosity to events, groups and organizations, I gained skills that deepened my spirituality, tools that assisted me in maintaining my health and knowledge and skills that deepened my understanding in both spiritual and wellness communities. We often seek to…

Tune #43 – Marry the Man Today

I am currently meditating on marriage. Last year I realized I was ready for marriage and what came next was a surprising universal counter argument to re-think that desire. Now, I am trying to make sense of the information I learned in classes and through books and personal stories people told me. Traditional values around marriage, dating…

Marriage: Overexposure

I’m currently in a month long meditation on Marriage. I was ecstatic to realize, in February 2016, I worked through a common fear most people have around marriage. What perplexed me was having that realization as a single, non-coupled, non-dating woman. Three months later, I was t-boned by the truths that challenged societies image and ideas of marriage,…

Building the Case for Marriage: My Framework

I don’t want to talk about marriage. It’s the last thing I want to talk about. As a little girl, I was an observer. I spent much of my time in silence and observed more then I spoke. I often saw more than most of my peers. As we grow older, we tend to observe far less, but…

Building the Case for Marriage

Last year was filled with many surprises. The themes that came up in my life were even more surprising, because some of them defined my year. Marriage. One of the most charged words in the English language. Everyone has an opinion and view on the topic. There are several images and ideas that are freely associated when…

A Year in (Relative) Isolation

I was isolated for the majority of 2016 as a result of both chance and choice. This wasn’t the first year I have been in this place. My journey towards finding a work-life balance started in 2013, what I didn’t know is that it was the beginning of having moments when would be alone or feel isolated. Seeking…

‘No Longer the Quiet, Shy Girl Who was in Pain’

I never planned to be here. I never thought I would write this blog, write this consistently and live the life I am living. Today is my three-year anniversary of starting The Illuminated Voice. This blog started out as a goal for myself to practice being vulnerable. I was challenged to perform a solo show, by my voice coach, about…